"I used to be a JERK, Are YOU?" by Rebecca Eubanks

I am so excited to introduce you to my friend and client Rebecca Eubanks.  I have had the privilege of working with her through Transformational Coaching over the past year.  Her transformation has been inspiring and beautiful to experience.  Several of her family members have personally shared their joy in how it is impacting them as well.
Rebecca shared her blog post with me the other day and I wanted to share it with you.  It speaks so clearly to the truth that out of Loving Yourself, Loving Others becomes possible.

Guest Blogger: Rebecca Eubanks

"I used to be a JERK, Are YOU?"

February 12, 2016

I am sitting in a coffee shop, drinking my coffee and trying to read. These two super cute (I am guessing high-schoolers) are sitting next to me. I can not help but listen to their language and the way they have been speaking to each other for the past 10 minutes! They have YET to say one nice or up-lifting thing to each other. I am assuming they are best friends by the way they are bossing each other around…
I am reminded that I used to think I was funny but in actuality, I was an ASSHOLE! Since learning how to be nice to myself, it has become easy to treat others with a similar respect. We ultimately treat others with how we feel about ourselves. NOW – If someone had told me this four years ago – I most likely would have made fun of them! I know, UGH. Admitting this is super raw but yet super liberating! In 2014, my New Years resolution was to be nice to myself, as nice I expected others to be. It was, and is, a LIFE CHANGING experience. The realization that I used to call myself names when I messed up which made it super easy to treat others that way.  So, how do you treat yourself? How do you treat others? How bad would it be if I had a heart to heart with these two young women. Listening to them is BREAKING my heart! They can have more in life. It starts with more from yourself!

Have you guys read this parable? It is the BATTLE OF GOOD & EVIL, IN ALL OF US!

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside of me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.  One is evil – his is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”  He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.  The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Please be NICE to yourself and to those that you LOVE…even those you may not love! Your heart and your life are IMPORTANT! Feed your soul, follow your heart and your family will thank you for it!

Love, R