New Life in the New Year - by: Tori Bradford
I was reminded today of how much has changed in my life over the last few years.
Confusion has been replaced with clarity, overwhelm has been replaced with an abundance of time to complete my tasks, desperation has been replaced with a zest and excitement for life, the dread of each passing day has been replaced with the joy that each moment brings. (When I write them all out in a row like that it sounds like I’m writing a feel-good love story...The words seem too cheap to explain the true transformation that has occurred!)
As I’m processing through this past year and beginning to create a vision for the next one, I am grateful to realize that the best gift I could have ever received is the gift of new life.
New life is around every corner that you look for it, and it’s just waiting for you to choose it.
A few years ago, my reality seemed bleak, hopeless, and lonely. I didn’t believe that there was new life waiting for me. I assumed every day would look the same and every passing year would bring the same pain and discontentment in life. I would feel the same loneliness in my marriage, I would experience the same hopelessness in finding what I was passionate about, I would see the same bleak horizon every day until the day I died.
Then I learned that I had a choice, and so I chose to shift. I chose to recognize that there was more in my life than the conversations and stories I was making up about it. I chose to begin looking for new opportunities and possibilities even when I didn’t think there would be any. I chose to live life believing there was ENOUGH for me.
I made the choice to stay curious about what life could look like, and stop letting the circumstances in my life dictate how I acted.
Where are you at today, friend? Do you live for the point in your day when you can finally lay your head on your pillow and sleep away the night? Do you feel that life will never change and everything will always remain the same? Do you look at other people and the life they lead and think you should be happy like them?
I want to encourage you to look to the future. If you’re anything like me, that scares the heck out of you because you assume your future will be more of the same… but friend, the future is bright. The future can hold the vision you long for, and the only thing standing in the way of you getting there is you.
You, your beliefs, and your choices are the only thing that can stand in the way and keep you from the future you dream of.
Do you desire to be a loving person? Do you desire to be a respectful spouse? Do you want to be a generous friend? Do you want to be a hospitable or philanthropic soul?
What is stopping you?
Do you blame your circumstances? Do you blame someone else? Do you think the reason you don’t have what you want is because you were raised a certain way?
But, what if it isn’t about any of those things? What if it isn’t about waiting for the stars to align at home or finally getting that promotion at work? What if it’s about the choices YOU can MAKE right now? What if it looks like you getting curious about who you want to be and then CHOOSING to step into that each day? What could life look like if you began living your vision now?
Sometimes we spend so much time planning our vision that we don't actually choose to step into it.
Today, I spent some time talking with a friend about this very topic, and he was hurting. Things have been tough in his marriage and he and his wife are not connecting like they used to. There is a lot of pain there and they each blame the other person for creating an environment where their weaknesses are evident. As I spoke with him, I heard the pain in his voice and the sound of desperation. He was truly believing the lie that life would never change unless his spouse changed.
But what if it’s not about his spouse changing? What if it’s about him choosing who he wants to be and regardless of his circumstances or the people in his life, he shows up that way?
A wise man once said, "When the pain of staying the same outweighs the pain of change then you will begin to see your vision realized." I’ve learned first hand how painful it is to stay the same. I’ve also learned first hand how amazing it is to step into the new life that was waiting for me.
Friends, who do you want to be in the New Year?
I encourage you to mull this over as you sit down to look at your year and how you want 2017 to be different. Who do you want to be? And what choices can you make daily to step into it?
The Beautiful Outcome team would love to stand with you in your vision! Would you be willing to share what's coming up for you?