The Gift of Receiving
"It is in giving that you receive, and receiving that you give."
Have you ever wondered why it seems easier to offer a gift than to receive?
I have had a lot of challenges with receiving gifts in the past. I have many memories of the uncomfortable feelings that came with Christmas.
- Being given a gift from someone that I didn’t buy a gift for
- Getting a gift that I didn’t like
- Being given a gift from my husband that we didn't have the money to pay for
Each of these experiences left me feeling uncomfortable inside. Even though I took the gift, I didn't receive it. My insides were resisting as I worked through the guilt, shame, lack of worthiness I felt, and disappointment.
I wanted to turn off all those annoying voices running through my head and just be present in the moment allowing myself to be happy and excited about the gift.
I am so grateful that I am learning that the volume on those voices can be turned down. The more I transform and experience wholeness, the less my pride gets in the way.
My pride likes to get me thinking about myself and how I feel. If I feel bad, then it encourages me to believe that those feelings must be true and then my shame shifts the story and tells me I am bad. Unfortunately, even though it is negative thoughts, I am still making it all about me when I choose to do that. I am choosing to be self-centered.
The gift of receiving is an opportunity to be humble. Unlike pride, humility invites me to realize that receiving a gift is actually about the person offering it. As I receive what is offered, I get to experience the giver's love, value, and desires for me. When I keep my focus off of myself and am present with what is occurring for them, I get to learn, grow, and receive the gift of them.
It becomes a beautiful moment that we get to experience together. Our lives are enriched as I allow the gift to be a token of who they are and how they feel about me.
The more I am learning to receive, the more I shift my scarcity mindset to one of abundance. I can see how much life offers me as I connect with the love behind the gift rather than the gift itself.