What You Resist Persists
I am finding myself in a very uncomfortable season as I step into the next level of my life work through Beautiful Outcome. This season is calling me to risk, love, and create in ways that are vulnerable, scary, and unknown. As I create a new website, an online coaching course, and continue developing a relationship with you - the community of Beautiful Outcome, I find myself battling with resistance.
What am I resisting? The creative process - I am daily tempted to hide, hold back, and withdraw from what is uncomfortable, unknown, and vulnerable.
What does resisting look like? - It’s different for everyone, but for me it looks like anxious thoughts running through me. For example:
- What if it fails?
- What if it doesn’t connect?
- What if they don’t like it or you?
- What if you can’t figure out the next thing you need to know to move forward?
These thoughts and questions seem to run on autopilot. It is uncomfortable to interrupt, and my natural response is to look for ways out by finding solutions to get to a "comfortable" place. I think things like:
- What if I don’t put it ALL out there - just the level that feels comfortable?
- What if I just wait and do this later when I will know more and feel more prepared?
- What if I just settle for where I am currently - it seems to be working and is good enough?
When I slow down and think about what is at stake if I give in and settle, I am awakened from my self-focused stupor and realize I am being asked to risk, love, & create to expand the world. It isn’t about me or for me it is for others!
As Lewis Carroll says, “One of the deep secrets of life is that all that is really worth the doing is what we do for others.”
The more I resist the uncomfortableness, the more these thoughts persists. The more they persist, the more I make it about me, and the less powerful my offering becomes as I settle for what feels good for me at the moment.
The gift of creating, risking & loving invites me to surrender. As I surrender, I allow myself to be with what is. I don’t need to self-protect, numb, or escape - I can be present with the opportunity that is right in front of me. Whether I need to have an uncomfortable conversation, learn something new, write at a deeper level of vulnerability, or just go for it and have the faith to believe in the bigger purpose - I surrender to the process. I allow myself to be OK, and even grateful for the uncomfortableness, because the fact that it is even present communicates to me that I am on the road to something greater than myself.
“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.” - Theodore Roosevelt
Part 3 of the 4 part podcast series I have been doing with Dan Tocchini speaks to how a challenge in my life with my husband brought me to choose to risk, to love, and create something new. My choices then led to curiosity and brought transformation to me, my marriage relationship, my work, and the people that were on the other side of what emerged as I was present in this uncomfortable opportunity.
After you've listened to the podcast, come back and answer the questions below and see what is waiting to open up for you in your relationships, your work, and your life.
What is difficult or uncomfortable in your life today?
What are you being asked to create?
If you weren’t resisting the uncomfortableness of risking and loving through your creating - what could you be?
Who is waiting on the other side of your offering yourself to what is in front of you?
Would you risk and love at this moment by sharing what is coming up for you as you as you sit in the uncomfortableness of creating in your life?